8 Things Your Woman Really Wants For Valentine’s day [a must read]

On Valentine’s Day husbands will arrive home with chocolates, roses, lingerie and images of probable intimacy afterwards dancing in their heads. As wives everywhere unwrap their gifts, they’ll be thinking, “So what’s in this for me?” Far from being that romantic holiday as depicted on the cards, Valentine’s Day has become another time for men to place more expectations on women.

The evidence is in: women are working harder than men. Most are still being paid less for their work outside the home. They are likely to be shouldering more of the burden of household and child rearing responsibilities than men. Women in the workplace continue to face sexism, spoken and unspoken. They are often exhausted by the expenditure of energy trying to combat the sexism they face without appearing petty or scandalous. Their work day is almost never over when they arrive back in their homes. Adding insult to injury, Valentine’s Day becomes an opportunity for men, in the guise of romance, to obligate their wives to intimacy when what their wives really want is time to relax, sleep, and have their houses cleaned by someone else. Therefore, for so many women their understanding of Valentine’s Day sex is just one more task that she is expected to perform.

For many women Valentine’s Day does not bring out romantic feelings. Instead, it ignites anger and frustration. Valentine’s Day seems to benefit men while requiring women to smile as they accommodate the desires of another man one more time. Women, at home and work, continually face the challenges of men who demand much and don’t give enough in return. While it is claimed that it is a holiday for women it doesn’t take much to see that it’s the men who get what they want, while women are wanting.

Wouldn’t it be great to rewrite the meaning of Valentine’s Day to a holiday that truly benefits women? The following are 10 rules for men that could transform Valentine’s Day into a holiday women can enjoy and maybe make them feel loved.

1. Gifts are fine but they should be something that she really wants. Not a gift a man wants a woman to want.

2. Rather than entering the home with expectations of romance and desire, ask your Valentine what you can do to lighten her load. This should be something that is built into marriage every day — but certainly try it on Valentine’s Day.

3. Clean the house, and do it well. Don’t do it in a manner that will predictably cause her to think that she never wants you to do it again because it was really half-hearted.

4. Do the laundry, and do it well.

5. Make dinner or make reservations. This should be a night your wife doesn’t have to cook.

6. Offer to take over all household duties for the evening so that she can take a long bath, read a book, watch her favorite TV show, etc.

7. When you get into bed, let her sleep if you can see that’s really what she wants. Don’t try to manipulate her into feeling guilty because she is not receptive to the idea of intimacy just because it is Valentine’s Day.

8. If she wants to heat things up, try to put the focus on her and what you know is pleasurable to her. If you don’t know what is pleasurable to her, that’s a sign of a real problem in your sex life.

The way to a woman’s heart is to show her that you are thinking of her and her needs not you and your needs. Relationships that keep the focus on the other person’s needs when trying to “gift” them generally end up being the most romantic relationships.

Source: liveofofo.com

7 Things You Can Do On Valentine’s Day If You’re Single

Today is Valentines, and of course in classic commercial sense, there’s all kinds of pink & red balloons around, love songs playing all the time on the radio, commercial for what to get the special one, and all kinds of things that keep reminding you that valentine’s day is here.

If you’re in a relationship, it’s a good reminder and definitely gives some ideas on what you can do for your special one, but if you’re single it’s an annoying reminder that you’re single and even if you don’t give 2 sh*ts about val’s day, it’s just in your face and you want it to end.

If you’re single and valentine’s day rolls around, you know you’re gonna get bombarded with couples all over the place. Folks receiving flowers, engagement stories, restaurants filled with lovers, etc. Well there’s stuff to do that will definitely get your mind off all that stuff.

You can still do your own thing, and have fun. You don’t have to sit and home and hate every couple, or pout, or drown yourself in ice cream and cheesy romance movies. Here’s a few ideas

1. Hit The Scene

Grab your single friends and hit the club scene. There’s always guaranteed to be something popping on vals day, and you can definitely grab a few single friend and hit up bars, pubs, clubs, karaoke bars and lounges. You definitely don’t need a significant other to have a blast a club.

2. Volunteer

Technically, Valentine’s day is about love. Not just romantic love, but love in general. There are plenty of folks that don’t have any kind of love, and there’s nothing that will make you feel better about yourself than doing some volunteer work that will put a smile on someone else’s face. Motherless babies home, Nursing home, Animal shelter, Food banks. These are just a few ideas.

3. Gym Time

While others might be piling up calories by eating chocolate and ice cream and the likes, you can do the opposite, and hit the gym. A good workout session will shed that stress you might be feeling off, and you’ll end up feeling very very refreshed.

4. Watch Movies (Scary Movies)

The farthest thing to think about when watching scary movies, is love. Well, technically, but it sure beats watching romantic comedies. Depending on your mood, you can watch movies by yourself or call up a few friends for movie night. Stack 3 movies together, and you’re sure to kill the night quickly.

5. Treat Yourself

Fine you don’t have a date on valentine’s day, but you still love yourself. Yep. You can spoil yourself a little bit on valentine’s day and feel great about it. A spa treatment, pedicure, shopping, buy something you’ve always wanted. Just something that will put a smile on that face.

6. Spend Time With Family

If you live in the same city as your family, it’ll be a good idea to spend some time with them. Some of my best memories of valentine’s day have been with family, and nothing like some good ole family time. If you’re too far away to visit family, then give them a call, or even skype with your parents or loved ones if you have the means. They are your first loves anyways

7. Throw A Party

Throwing a party just might be the ultimate way to have blast on val’s day. But you have to know for at least a week that you’re not doing anything “traditional” on valentine’s day. Hit up everyone, buy drinks, some appetizers, and get to partying. Heck you can spice it up and give it a theme. Fun things. You never know you just might get laid.

So there you have it. 7 things you can do on valentine’s day if you’re single. What you don’t want to do it hit up an ex, accept a rush date with someone you really don’t know or sulk and hate on your friends in relationships. You don’t want to come off as desperate, bitter or miserable. It’s just another day really without all the shenanigans.

source: Jaguda