10 Things You Should Never Lie To Your Man About [A must Read]

10 Jun

by Kevin Carr

A little white lie never hurts, right? Well, not exactly.

Sometimes we tell little lies because we don’t want to hurt our partner’s feelings, but when it comes to dating, honesty is important. And, there’s certain things we usually fib about — like how many people we’ve had sex with or how we really feel about his inner circle — that can be even more hurtful to our guys and our relationships.

What things should you always be honest about with your man?

1. Your Birthday I know the rule: You never ask a woman her age. However, when it comes to dating, this rule must be broken. Don’t lie about your age. If he’s turned off, at least you will know where you both stand immediately. Lying about your age will instantly make you seem insecure, especially if you’re older. Who says PYTs have an age limit? Keep it real ladies!

2. How Much You Like Sports Your interest in sports isn’t as important to him as you think. As long as he can watch the game, he’s fine. You don’t have to watch it with him. If you really aren’t that interested in his favorite football or basketball team, it shouldn’t bother him one bit. But if he takes sports seriously and you’re misquoting stats, butchering player’s names and feigning interest in the score, it will be more annoying than endearing. He will know if your interest is genuine or not, so don’t fake it.

3. Number.
Discussing your sexual history is always tricky, but it’s unavoidable if things between you are becoming serious. I know all women won’t be in agreement here but, when it does come up, I say be open and honest about it. If he asks how many people you’ve slept with before him, don’t give him the “safe” number. Give him the real one. If he can’t handle your answer, that’s on him—not you. He should’ve taken heed when his mother told him to never ask a woman a question you don’t want the answer to.

4. Your Cooking Abilities: Nothing’s more disappointing for a man than to be promised a “life changing” home-cooked meal only to be served a plate full of watery macaroni and cheese and questionable meat. So you don’t know your way around a kitchen, that’s fine. It doesn’t make you less of a woman. Tell the truth and give him the chance to impress you with his skills. If you’re both clueless, you can always order take-out.

5. Your Marriage Goals: Most women assume that talking about marriage will scare a man off, but that’s false. The man that’s right for you will want to know where you really stand—especially if he’s on a different path. There is a way to be open about where you desire to be in the future in terms of your relationship without putting too much pressure on the present situation. Saying you don’t want to be married when you clearly do, will send him running for the hills.

6. Your Real Thoughts On His Inner Circle: If you’re not “cool” with his inner circle, you shouldn’t pretend to be. While you should keep an open mind when getting to know them, it’s imperative that you find a way to be open with him about your reservations instead of forcing yourself to hang out with people you just don’t care for.

7. How Cool You Are With Him Having “Female Friends”: Not every woman will be comfortable with her man’s best friend forever being a female. This is something you must be honest with yourself and him about up front. The issues you overlook in the beginning can potentially become romantic barriers later on down the line. Don’t tell him you’re “cool with it” when you’re not. He’ll see right through this one fast.

8. The Ex-Factor: If your ex is still in the picture, say so. It’s just as important not to hide a connection to an ex, as it is for him to reveal any women in his life. As long as you both keep it real in this department, there will be no unwanted surprises.

9. Your Bedroom Activities: Don’t ever tell a man he’s the best you’ve ever had unless it’s the actual truth. You may want to feed his ego, but it won’t work that way if you’re lying. If you tell him he’s the best then he has no room to improve. Compliment him but don’t overdo it. He’ll appreciate it the realness.

10. The “Real”: You Additions and enhancements are cool, but at some point the man you’re dating should be able to meet the real you. I am attempting to tread lightly here. I know that at times certain outfits may require some “help.” But don’t let padded bras, body shapers and hair weaves mask the real you. That’s who he is most interested in, promise. Or at least, Mr. Right should be.

Keeping it real counts and could save you a whole bunch of heartache in your relationship! I’ll put up something for the guys in my next

What do you think? Want to add something else? While not leave a comment…..


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Kim Kardashian gives birth to baby girl…five weeks sooner

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According to TMZ
Kim Kardashian has given birth to a baby girl … TMZ has learned. Sources close to KK tell TMZ the baby and Kim are both in good health. We’re told Kim delivered the baby at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center this morning (Saturday June 15th)… 5 weeks sooner than originally planned. Our sources say BF Kanye West was there for the entire thing. We’re told Kanye cancelled his appearance at his own record release party last night when Kim told him she was feeling “a little off.” It is the first child for Kim and Kanye.

So happy for Kim…..

5 NANS members die in fatal auto crash on their way to UNIIYO

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The Senate President of the National Association of Nigerian Students (NANS) Donald Onukaogu and four other students were killed in a tragic auto accident along the Umuahia – Ikot Ekpene federal road on their way to the University of Uyo, Akwa-Ibom State to intervene in the crisis that rocked the school yesterday. Continue reading

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BBA updates: Three new faces join The Chase!

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The Chase is on and as the show heats up, three new faces have joined the latest season of Big Brother Africa, which is headline sponsored by Airtel. Continue reading

Funke Akindele: The new face of Vitafoam, deal worth millions

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The giant mattress maker, Vitafoam, pens down Nigeria actress, Funke Akindele (Jenifa), as the new face of Vitafoam in a mouthwatering deal. Continue reading

Extreme: Nigerian/Ghanaian actress Crystabel Ekeh in stunning new photos [Look]

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The actress released these promotional photos recently and am totally stunned!
Mehn….she’s good, see more photos after the cut…. Continue reading

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Dazzling photos from Iyanya London Concert [Look]

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More photos if u continue….

BBA updates: How do they dodge Nominations?

11 Jun

How exactly do some Housemates manage to dodge the Nomination bullet?

This week Cleo, Maria, Bimp and Fatima’s names were not mentioned at all during Nominations. Could this be as a result of being the best Housemates or have they been playing it safe?

There are a few characteristics that these Housemates have in common. They have all been happy-go-lucky and constantly just moved with the flow. They have avoided stepping on anyone’s toes at any given time and maintained good relationships with most of the Housemates.

Perhaps it’s a question of being forgettable? Cleo for example has been playing her cards very close to her chest. Unlike her over emotional beau Hakeem, Cleo has kept her emotions at bay. Natasha even charged at her for not expressing her emotions whenHakeem was swapped from Ruby to Diamond House. However, Cleo has managed to remain aloof even where Hakeem is concerned. Unlike the Betty’s of this world, Cleo spends time with everyone and has no issues just being the only girl chilling with guys even though she’s in the hottest relationship of the Season.

Meanwhile, Fatima was also dealt a blow on Friday when Ruby Head of House Selly decided to fish her potential man, Elikem out of the Diamond House to Ruby. Though she felt bad about losing a companion, she wasn’t all over the place about her feelings, she remained collected.

Bimp on the other hand restricts his conversations to the guys and never speaks above anyone. Basically, he speaks when spoken to. Such a character is very easy to forget when it’s time to sacrifice someone on that hot Nominations seat.

So, Maria is another one who smiles with everyone. Her pint size may also work in her favour here. Who wants to Nominate the smallest girl really? That’s just being bully. At that time, Maria is slipping through the ranks and making her way to the Finale.

We’ve said it before and we’ll say it again, the sooner the Housemates remove emotions from their Nominations and start Nominating smart, they will be Evicted one by one. Chances of Cleo, Maria, Bimp and Fatima’s names coming up in tonight’s Save and Replace are equally slim so, till then it looks like they remain on the safe side.

Will the Housemates realise the game that these shadow Housemates are playing soon enough?